i remember... before i had kids, i would see other moms and think..."when im a mother ...i will never do that" like, i always said, "i wont let my kids watch tv, oh... i will never let them have sugar, thats just plain crazy!
and i did pretty good with my first child, made all his cakes and snacks with no sugar til he was about 2 1/2 and really no tv until the second child came around...then little p(my then 2 yr old) went to his first birthday party.... and it was over and to get anything done with the new baby i had to keep him occupied.
now... 800,000 episodes of Dora later, i no longer feel the way i did way back when... sugar?.. no problem.. have that lollie pop for breakfast, while sitting in front of the tv...lol well im also have 4 children now and it just got harder and harder with each one.. so sometimes you just got to say " go for it." all kidding aside, you have to do the best you can, but don't be too unfair to yourself by having unrealistic expectations. I don't think my philosophy of child rearing has changed and I don't think I have sold out. remember when you were expecting your first and other veteran parents would tell you that you will love your child even more than you think you are capable? and as soon as your child was born it was like a light went on and you thought.... oh yeah, thats what they meant. well, i now realize that flexibility is one of traits of a good mom and if that means i get to say "yes" a couple more times a day, im all for it.